Leaving the IQ, we cross the Pathway of Intelligence:

This pathway is about open and clear communication, led from the heart when relating to others. This pathway takes a different name at the Shadow level - the Pathway of Defense. If we allow our lower frequency mental (IQ sphere) teenage pattern to rule us, we would tend to trigger the other person’s lower frequency emotional (EQ sphere) defense strategy, which then triggers our shadow frequency IQ pattern to engage. This is a back-and-forth struggle, also known as the “Eden Loop”. If you’ve ever felt like the person you’re talking to just “doesn’t listen”, doesn’t “get you”, and emotions flare up both ways, it is worth looking into both your IQ and EQ sphere shadows and contemplating them. Releasing from this loop requires letting go of defenses, to allow yourself to feel what you feel, and communicate that to the other without expectation that you will be heard, yet at the same time in a way that does not active their defense trigger. Dropping down into authenticity is the key.

The EQ sphere is about the ages of 7-14 and the emotional development during that time. It is said that “the Shadow of this Gene Key governs your primary emotional defence mechanism, which is the set pattern you adopted as a child whenever you felt unsafe.”

My EQ sphere holds Gene Key 14.5. Gene Key 14 goes from the Shadow of Compromise, through the Gift of Competence, to the Siddhi of Bounteousness. The 5th line in this sphere is about Respect/Disrespect.

Compromise held such a place in my early life. I remember often compromising how I felt or what I wanted to keep the peace when my parents were drunk or fighting or taking things out on us kids in this time period. I remember compromising on my childhood dreams back then of being a professional wrestler, as my parents laughed it off and didn’t even inquire with me. They spoke about what jobs might make better money when I was young, but there was never a real inquiry from them on “what do YOU want to be or do?”. To be fair, my work was cut out for me on the wrestling dream as I was very short, very skinny, and had no money to go train anywhere even when I was old enough to do so. The irony on the wrestling dream is that the real compromise would have actually been to pursue that dream - when I learned what really went on in the wrestling world with how many days out of the year wrestlers would be gone from their families, and dilemmas that they got into on the road as a result of that gap and influences - I understood that to follow that dream would be compromising a more important dream for me.

When I was 7 years old and approaching turning 8, I decided that I wanted to build a family with a solid foundation of love, establishing and rooting in stability in the heart. I wanted to fall in love, get married, have kids, and own a house. My parents never owned a house, and we rented apartments and a house up until my grandmother passed away when I was almost 15, with my father inheriting her house at that point. Back then, there were families that owned and retained houses for multiple generations. I had heard about the whole “house with a white picket fence”, etc., and that wasn’t important to me…I just wanted everything that I saw my parents struggled with to be something that was secure in my life, and that I would not handle a relationship the way that they did…I would create peace in my life and I would love with my heart, and I would do so with a partner that aligned with that…and my children would benefit from the molds that were broken. Imagine an 8-year-old walking around looking for a wife. Sounds crazy, I know. But that was me. That’s what I wanted.

I remember compromising my internal integrity often during those early teen years (and even beyond) in that search for a partner, too. Finding someone of interest, figuring out that things they were into were beyond me or my interests, and attempting to make myself be that. It’s life experience in a “normal” way, but throughout all of the rejections was a common theme of me not understanding why I wasn’t accepted and wanted for who I was, and I had to see that due to earlier rejections when being who I was, I thought I needed to be something else just to have what seemed like a normal relationship for everyone else. My emotional defense to these relationship rejections was to compromise my authentic self to try to create the connection I perceived I was missing.

The shadow in the 14th of Compromise pairs with the shadow in the 8th of Mediocrity (these keys being programming partners), and these shadows together pose a perspective that there is no escape from dissatisfying life situations. I bring this in, because I have Chiron in the 8th key. Chiron being the “Wounded Healer” and it’s position in our astrological natal chart representing our deepest wounds that, if healed, become the work we help others with. I’m very familiar with the feeling of compromise and mediocrity coming from childhood, and one of the paramount parts of my journey has been about stepping into the gifts of these two keys - Competence (14th) and Style (8th).

The Style in the 8th is about owning one’s individuality and uniqueness and bringing that into the world - the authentic self, and the Competence in the 14th is about confidence in being that authentic self and drawing in the components to make our dreams come to fruition. The 14th key is deemed “Possession in Great Fortune” in I Ching, a symbol of wealth, health, and prosperity. The gift of Competence is said to have the power of attraction to material wealth, and even more importantly, love. According to the Gene Key 14 audio, this gift contains “the spark of enthusiasm to create a cohesive team that inspires a group to achieve great things”, and it is about a small team of 3-15 people. This is the literal sense of what I envisioned with falling in love and creating a family.

I’ve seen the Eden Loop play out in my relationships in hindsight. The drive of this Competence to create this small unit of love, but the play on defenses to keep things at bay. I also went through this in marriage and having children, and even compromising internal self at times to keep the dream “alive” as the idea I had in mind, with rising out of compromise being a contributing factor to divorce. I’ve also seen the Line 5 Disrespect/Respect play out in life. I’ve disrespected my self at times and others when things weren’t aligning to my liking, and I’ve been humbled by the universe each time. The respect comes from those who sense my authenticity and integrity, and I respect everyone going through their journey in a much deeper way than when I was young.

It is through this desire to no longer compromise self, but to own and express self, that the Siddhi of Bounteousness becomes realistic. Bounteousness is the ability to create in abundance. Think about the word “abundance”, and most will start with money. That speaks to the state of society in this world. Abundance can, and does, mean many things…and the rising out of the shadows and the owning of authentic selves will give rise to abundance in the prosperity realms - beyond material gains, to the point where everyone has the materials they need and those things are no longer on pedestals, but rather the abundance of authenticity gives prosperity to all souls who have joined together in the co-creation of life, bringing a form of heaven on Earth.

The same desire I had as a child for finding romantic love and building a family with unity in authenticity, integrity, and heart…I will forever carry that with me in this lifetime, and it is the same fuel that propels me to encourage others to seek their authentic selves and create abundance for themselves and others as a result. It is the same fuel that propels my visions of life beyond this system, beyond money, beyond status and fame…one of authenticity and synarchy.